The following is a short excerpt from another very long article from Newsweek profiling 172nd SBCT families during the brigade's extension.
Oct. 30, 2006 - For the first year of her husband's deployment with the 172nd Stryker Brigade, Tamara Bell says she was a "good Army wife." She supported her husband's mission and trusted the military to bring him home safely—and on time. After all, Tamara, 32, grew up as a Navy brat, and she and Staff Sgt. Edward Bell have been married for 12 years, weathering several overseas deployments in South Korea, Bosnia and the initial invasion of Iraq in 2003, when Edward was with one of the first units to enter Baghdad. Even during his second Iraq deployment, Tamara, waiting at home in Fairbanks, Alaska, with the couple's infant son, did everything she could to keep her spirits up. She and Edward counted the days remaining in full moons ("It seems a lot shorter that way") and communicated nonstop about their baby Nicholas, now 11 months old, whom Edward last saw at birth.
But last July, only days before Edward was to return home to Fairbanks following a year of combat duty in Mosul, Tamara learned that his infantry battalion, the 4-23, was being sent to Baghdad to quell violence in the Iraqi capital. The extension was to last four months. That was the moment she snapped, she says. "Everyone has a breaking point, and that was mine," says Bell. "He was exactly seven days away from coming home. With the extension, I said, 'Wow, I need to be a lot less trusting of what the military tells us.'" Her husband, she adds, feels his own country is using him. “They are no longer showing us any loyalty." [...]
Comments For "Army Wife Distrusts Timetables":
How disappointing.
Posted by: justfadingaway
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October 31, 2006 8:39 AM
I'm so tired of listening to the whining of SOME OF the wives of this group, much less SOME OF the soldiers. I'm a Stryker Mom of the 4/23rd. Is my son happy about the extension, no, is his wife, no. But for God's sake, it's a War! Things like this happen. Grow up! My other son is on his second deployment right now in Iraq, he's missing his only child's first's too. His first speech, his first trick or treat, he missed his first birthday, he just missed his first steps! And he will miss his first real Christmas, first Easter, etc. It makes him sad, it makes his wife sad, but he has a job to do. So does his wife. So do we all, we are to support our men and women in the military,not go to the media who LOVE to give the down side of everything. Have we seen ONE POSITIVE REPORT FROM NEWSWEEK ABOUT THE STRYKERS - NO! Think about it. I'm sorry this family has had a hard time. You're in the Army, it's hard, get over it. I worry about this Sgt's attitude spilling over to his soldiers and their morale and their work. I'm worried if he's with my son. And before you think I don't know what I'm talking about, I'm an Army brat of 21 years, and I have two sons in the Army. I know! It's hard. Life's hard. God Bless Our Soldiers!
Posted by: Soldiersmomtimes2
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October 31, 2006 9:42 AM
yes, I'm hoping they actually make it home this time. Although, I am cautious with my excitement. I'd like to be bouncing off the walls, but it's difficult to get into that position again until I know he is arriving at Ft. Wainwright. When you get so vulnerably happy once...and then severely burned, it's hard to allow yourself that same careless feeling. If my husband and I actually understood why it was completely necessary, it wouldn't have been so hard. It's a mess we don't really want to be a part of until it's straightened out with good leadership. Let's pray they make it home in the dates we were told, and that they weren't just rumors.
Posted by: Steph
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October 31, 2006 10:01 AM
Yes, I am not going by any of the dates they have given. Too many things hinted at extending our men,i.e needing more troops and keeping some that are already in Iraq. I won't be excited until that last plane brings ALL of the 172nd home and even then I will be cautious, other units have had to redeploy after a month of being home. Fool me once shame on you fool me twice.... that's not going to happen
Posted by: wolfpackwife
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October 31, 2006 11:36 AM
This wife has every right be mad and more. They tell over kids 1 year out then change their mind but then say we have to keep our promise to Iraq. What about our kids and the promise made to them! They are being shot and killed and yet the PM of Iraq turns lose the ones we capture or tells our troops to take down the road blocks while we are looking for our missing trooper! Time to come home and let them have that hell hole
Posted by: booker5m
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October 31, 2006 12:05 PM
Soldiersmomtimes2,
Your scolds are better directed toward the people who aren't holding up their end of the bargain.
Army families have endured and sacrificed much. Every one of them.
They will not, however, tolerate lies from our leadership, nor indifference/hostility/sloth/corruption of the Iraqis for whom they sacrifice.
Posted by: currahee
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October 31, 2006 12:34 PM
I understand it's hard for people to have soldiers go to war and miss special "first's" However, our husbands are missing 2nd's 2nd birthdays, 2nd 1st days of school, 2nd thanksgiving and halloween. Births of babies conceived on R&R. Unless they have one of the first few months of R&R dates, it shouldn't be in question if they will be there for the birth. We are just asking for support, not judgement of our natural feelings.
Posted by: RU24_7
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October 31, 2006 5:00 PM
The fact is that we have ALL endured a lot and as the second time for us to anticipate our loved ones coming home safe approaches we are dealing with that anticipation differently. I talked to my son today and he said that all the guys he knowa say they will not believe they are really coming home until they are on that plane to Alaska. Until then they say they will try to forge ahead with little sleep and will not get jacked until they know they are headed home.
GOD BLESS him and all the rest of OUR 172nd SBCT.What incredible men and women they are.
Posted by: Tex
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October 31, 2006 5:40 PM
It really isn't a war. Last I heard, there wasn't even a declaration of it. What this is, is just strange. If we all felt it was worthy, do you think we would be complaining about what our soldiers must do?
Posted by: Steph
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October 31, 2006 5:41 PM
Look, deployments I'm cool with. They're not fun but hey I'm a military wife, that's part of the job.
Extensions, well I'm okay with those too.
NOW extensions at the last minute when violence has been on the increase since FEBRUARY? That makes me sit back and question what are our leaders doing?
Then even further. Lies from our leaders when many of us know the truth. That's what bugs me all.
And by the way I don't remember in that report where it said that "oh my she's having it so tough, and oh my the soldier is having it so tough" Did it once say that "Wow she's had a tough year?" or "Wow look at all she's/he's done this year" or "Wow she's/he's endured so much this year"????
Nope. I don't remember seeing anything in there about that. The only thing I recall seeing is that someone has stood up and said "I don't trust you so I'm going to look for my own answers"
Posted by: nbcwife
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October 31, 2006 7:32 PM